In our
modern multicultural climate, orthodox
Christians who affirm a high value for
biblically-based “family values”, such as
sexual chastity, heterosexual marriage,
life beginning at conception, and the
discouragement of divorce, often find
allies in those from other faith
traditions including Judaism, Islam and
Mormonism.
But the
New Testament’s surprising additional
affirmation of singleness as something
“good” (1 Cor 7:1), on the other hand,
generally breaks with these other
traditions and raises the possibility that
the distinction itself points to something
fundamentally different in Christian
theology.
What is it
that makes Christianity different, and why
is it that Christianity positively affirms
a positive role and purpose for singles
within the community of faith, while these
other traditions also rooted in the
creation account in Genesis do not?
The answer is not a simple one, but
intersects how we understand the person
and work of Christ, the nature of
Christian discipleship and the household
of faith.
Genesis is
the foundational beginning of how we are
to understand marriage, singleness and
offspring, but it is not the end of the
story. As theologically astute
Christians we are compelled to follow
these themes as they develop through the
full canon of the Word of God culminating
in the person work of Jesus Christ and the
nature of the new community that he
inaugurates.
The
theological question of singleness is
worth exploring not simply because we
may find ourselves or someone dear to us
in the single state, but because in
exploring it we gain greater
understanding of the larger
macro-theological themes of Scripture.
The payoff is not primarily therapeutic,
but transformative in what it has to
teach us about the nature of God and the
grandeur of his plan for humanity.
The upshot is that this is a topic worth
exploring because the journey has much
to teach us beyond the topic itself.
For though
we begin with a theological question about
singleness, we soon find ourselves
standing before the grand and
comprehensive plan of God purposed in
Christ for all creation. From there
we return, blessed and enriched in our
understanding not only of singleness, but
also of marriage, offspring, family and
everything else in God’s created order.
The topic
is also important because it does touch
so many of us, either at present, or in
the past, or possibly in the future. We
all begin our life as single and we all
will exit it single.
The
majority of us find ourselves unmarried as
we approach death’s door. Even those
in long and very blessed marriages
recognize that circumstances can suddenly
tear us from our spouses with no advanced
warning. So it is perhaps the stark
reality of life in this age that compels
us to take fresh comfort in this
distinctive New Testament teaching.
And it is reason enough that we should
seek to understand the deeper theological
truths to which it points.
I am
persuaded that there is a type of
corporate joy in celibate Christian
singleness that is seldom appreciated or
talked about. In Luke 20:34-36 Jesus
tells us that those who attain to the new
age of the resurrection will neither marry
nor be given in marriage because they
cannot die anymore. Rather, they
shall be “like the angels”. With
death and marriage (in the traditional
sense) passé in the age to come, we can
also infer the disappearance of few other
things such as old age, childhood
(assuming we are all resurrected as
adults), spousal and parental
relationships, and most likely sexual
union.
Former
familial relationships (spouses, parents,
children, etc.) may be
recognizable, but they will not
function as they formerly did. On
the other hand the reality of being
brothers and sisters in our new family in
Christ may well be the best sense of what
does continue in our eternal
state.
Part of the
excitement and joy of being single in
Christ here and now is that it can serve
as an anticipatory glimpse of our
eternal community. This is because
Christian singleness is not meant to be
a singleness lived in isolation, but
lived within a larger family of brothers
and sisters in Christ.
Christian
singles have greater availability for
sharing in and strengthening the lives of
one another in a range of different
ways. Singleness brings more
flexibility to spontaneously make time to
encourage someone else’s spiritual journey
over a meal or coffee. It can serve
to spur each another in existing or new
opportunities for service within the
kingdom of God.
There can
be a genuine buzz of excitement in the
anticipation of wondering how and where
God might choose to move us next in his
global operations.
There
is continual opportunity to create time to
drink deeply of the well of life
experiences of others around us, and there
are many opportunities to meet and share
in the lives of an enormous range of
persons of both sexes within the global
family of Christ.
Though
in some degree these things are also
experienced in our fellowship as the
broader corporate church, Christian
singles that cultivate community together
often find an intensification
of this unique joy insofar as they are
less distracted with traditional familial
responsibilities of the present
age. This is the joy of singleness
that rightly serves as a prophetic token
of the age to come. It is something
to be savored and shared.
For
more resources on the topic of “redeeming
singleness” visit Dr. Barry
Danylak’s blog at: http://redeemingsingleness.com/