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Empty
Empathy
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by
Michael Shaughnessy
A recent study shows a steep decline in
empathy among smartphone-using college
students. (The Oxford dictionary defines
empathy as the ability to understand and
share the feelings of another.) In other
words, in this feelings-oriented world the
emotional distance between people is
increasing.
According to Professor Sherry Turkle, author
of Reclaiming Conversation, part of the
decline in empathy is due to the use of
communication devices. In her research she
found that when youth attend a summer camp
where phones and tablets are forbidden,
youth quickly grow in their ability to
identify what other people are feeling.
Feeling empathy is not the same as acting
in love, but empathy is a significant
element in loving well. A world without
empathy will most likely be a world
without love.
Broader
but Shallower
She also found that just putting a
smartphone on a table in the line of sight
between any two people changes the
conversation, making it more superficial.
Even when people are not looking at the
phone on the table they know it has the
power to intrude at any point and interrupt
a deep conversation. Often, the people
present don’t even try to have a deep
conversation. The mobile phone has increased
our ability to be present and connected, but
constantly connected seems to lead to being
less deeply
connected.
Today there is greater speed and breadth of
communication but shallower relationships.
People have adopted new technologies in
pursuit of greater control, only to feel
controlled by them. They want deep
relationships but are stuck with snack
food. They are being sold ersatz empathy
when they want real love. They are
settling for fake and superficial online
communities when they crave an authentic
one.
It may be that what we offer in the Sword
of the Spirit is a real answer in such a
time as this.